Golden Bay Midwifery Service

Parenthood

Welcome to Motherhood and Fatherhood. . . .

 
 
Relaxation Tips
[Essential for every Mother]

* Try to have a sleep each day
* Take the phone off the hook when resting
* Put a sign on the door "Mother & baby sleeping"
* Learn to do nothing while baby is sleeping

YOUR BABYS TIMETABLE

 

regular phase   A 'regular phase' is when the baby has 2 or 3 feeds that are spaced at 3 to 4 hour intervals. Not many babies do this consistently over a 24 hour period in the first 8 weeks, but may have 2 or 3 breaks like this over 24 hours.

wakeful phase   The 'wakeful phase' is when the baby is feeding frequently, (or constantly) every 1 to 2 hours. This may last an average of 2 to 6 hours, and can be at any time of the day or night and is often accompanied by the baby being unsettled and/or crying.

 

sleeping phase   The 'sleeping phase' usually comes after the wakeful phase ends. The baby (and hopefully the mother) will usually fall into a deep sleep for about 4 to 6 hours or so, getting back to the 'regular phase' again.

She/he may be saying. . .
"I'm hungry"
"I'm tired or uncomfortable"
"I'm lonely or I'm bored &
I need a cuddle"
"I have colic"
"I'm in pain"
"I feel irritable"
"I'm sick
"

The Brainwave Trust will help you to find out about how you can help your baby's brain development
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Brainwave Trust

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TWINS

Below is an email which a very tired mother of twins sent to her friends.  Every new mother feels like this sometimes but, thankfully, it quickly passes!!

twins

 

I'm not even going to say "hi".  There isn't time and I don't feel that friendly.

 

It's official.  I've gone mad.  I am sitting at the computer typing away my frustration in between swigging lemonade (it won't be lemonade for very much longer, I can tell you) and eating black forest chocolate.

 

Now don't get me wrong.  I do not want your sympathy, just let me vent my spleen and I'll feel a little happier.

 

Our babies have cried pretty much constantly since 7.30 this morning.  It is okay when only one cries because you can turn your attention to that one and change/comfort/feed/change/wind/change that baby.  It's when they both go at once as they have done for a good part of the day.

 

Andrew has been at a Te Whare board meeting since 3pm.  I can't take the twosome for a walk because the pram has lost a tyre and anyway they are now so big that they bash each other severely when cooped up in the one place. I can't put them in the car and take them for a drive because these fancy new hired car seats have a base that lives in the vehicle - Andrew's vehicle and he's got that.  I can't lie them in their cot together when they are both throwing a hissy fit because they overlap now and kick shit out of one another, adding to their outrage.

 

I found I couldn't even leave the room with two babies in my arms because the door had swung shut and we still have no door handles (they're in a box and on the "to do" list).  Carrying them both round is hard on the arms and ears when both are wriggling and screaming.  I can't put them in front packs because we only have one front pack and I only have one front.

 

They are both extremely tired and have insides problems (fart city!).  Sian has pooed for England today and Todd has been very windy.  On top of that it is extreeeemely humid here today.  On Monday we had 31.5 degrees with humidity that meant none of the washing dried on the line despite it being a bright, sunny, breezy day. 

 

I HATE SUMMER !!!! 

We have also had a couple of tradesmen here for a couple of hours today installing semi-flash wardrobe shelving and I think they thought I was murdering the small people - such was the racket.

 

"Sleep when the babies sleep" everyone says.  Huh!!

 

The third load of washing for the day is still in the machine.  The gas bottle has run out for the gas hob so I can't sterilise the bottles in the big pot until Andrew gets home with the thing refilled.  It is nearly feeding time again and the one-adult-to-two-hungry-screaming-babies circus act begins again.

 

My shirt is puke-stained and my back aches from carting Todd around in the front pack this morning.  My hair has gone all frizzy from the humidity and the lack of a good cut.  I feel like a f...ing mess.  "Ahh!"  I hear you say.  "A fair dinkum mum!"

This page is to help you on  your parenting journey.
 
Your midwife will visit you at home regularly and be available to assist you by phone until your baby is six weeks old.

GOLDEN BABES Monthly Meeting (including Breast Feeding Support Group)

Time:10am

Venue: Church of Christ Hall

Date:  Third Thursday each month.

 

 
 
For a comprehensive range of health related information

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Click on this link for some fun

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Huggies Fun Pages
 
Baby Moves
Click on the picture below for information about a book, written by a Nelson Physiotherapist, on the development of a child's brain and how you can help your baby to develop.

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Baby Moves

Click on the Parenting with Confidence icon to check out their very helpful website.

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Parenting With Confidence

Click her for immunisation advice
Immunisation Advisory Centre

ADVICE  

One of the most common problems for new parents is the seemingly constant stream of unsolicited (and often conflicting) advice, usually from your family, friends and neighbours 

If the advice you are given is not working, (or doesn't feel right), it doesn't mean you are not parenting correctly. It is simply a matter of the suggestion not being right for you and your baby.  

 

Treat suggestions as 'trial and error' in finding what 'works' for you and your baby. 

Trust your own 'motherly and fatherly instincts'. If the advice you first receive doesn't feel 'right', or it doesn't appear to suit your baby or yourself, then modify it.

 
 
 
Postnatal "Blues" and
Postnatal Depression

Many women feel tearful about the 3rd to 5th day after the birth which may be explained as being 'hormonal' and from tiredness. This passes within a few days.

However, if you think you may be suffering from Postnatal Depression, which is a more serious problem, you should seek help. There are a number of support services available to you in the district so, in the first instance, talk to your midwife, doctor or Plunket Nurse who will be able to help you.

For more information about Postnatal Depression check out the Postnatal Depression page in this website.

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